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Trevor

Yeah, when we first got together I was in love with her. I guess it would be easy to blame the grog and that, but that stuffed things up between us, but it’s true. Our relationship was okay. Better than some, as long as we were sober. We’d get drunk and I’d get jealous if she would talk to any other bloke and I guess I was just getting angry and using my fists. And I thought I was sticking up for myself but I could have done it in a better way but I didn’t really know what else to do.

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Yeah, I done some courses like ‘Relationships Australia’. Mainly because we were trying to get our two youngest kids back off them. I guess I can see a lot of the time, I was getting frustrated and angry because I didn’t really know how to deal with kids getting taken off us. And with Lisa and her depression, she was really down. We would always get arguing over a little thing and we’d get drunk. And after all the bluing and blaming each other, it was usually forgot; why it all started in the first place.

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You don’t want your kids growing up with all sorts of problems like school problems or police problems and things like that. I don’t want them using violence because that’s all they know. I’ve got a better understanding now of how kids can copy us and yeah.

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Even after I probably knew that Lisa wasn’t cheating on me, or anything, I’d get that jealous and stupid and I’d get that wild. I’d get jealous of any bloke she was talking to or anything, or even if it was her sisters. Yeah, there was this one time at the pub, we were all pissed and I punched her out in front of everyone and threw her over my shoulder and took her home. It was bloody stupid!

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I guess we all grew up a bit mixed up. I know where I come from, there’s a lot of fighting and feuding and family feuding and that. And you just get caught up in it but sitting around and drinking, they’re the sort of things that I guess I’ve been trying to change, and the way that I also relate to people as well.

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Twelve months ago I would never have considered something like this. I’d have been like, ‘no, I’m not talking to no strangers. I’ll fix it myself’. But I’m coming around a bit now and I think I trust people a bit more. I think it’s better when you’re in a group because you don’t feel ashamed as much. And when you see that there are other blokes out there in the same situation as you, you feel more confident in being able to talk.